Sunday, May 6, 2012
If you want to find a reason not to laugh - you will.
When I first started my blog and counterpart Facebook page, it was because I was feeling low. It was winter in New England. Cold, dreary and filled with the blahs, I asked myself what has become of this crazy world. I'd turn on the news and get depressed, I'd read the paper and take two more steps back, I'd scroll through Facebook and see the image of perfection every where I looked. Why does it feel like everyone has their shit together but me? Surely I can't be the only one feeling like this. After reading a few other sarcastic blogs, I found the courage to put into words how imperfect I was - and to laugh about it, in hopes that others would laugh, too. I kind of thought that my contribution to this ailing society we live in is a dose of the best medicine - laughter. So my goal was two simple things; to laugh - and be laughed at or with - it didn't matter to me as long as they were laughing. Little did I know, it too would be like swimming upstream and trying not to drown in the meantime from countless forces trying to fight me and the tide.
I've been called names, I've been told I am not funny, I've been told a joke I posted doesn't make sense. I've been told this or that is 'no laughing matter' - I've been a victim of people mistreating me and calling me all sorts of crazy, un-ladylike things for the smallest, most innocent and even ridiculous posts. I have never ever been racist, degrading, inappropriate, unkind, none of it. If poking fun of someone for tanning so much they are a shade of dark orange makes me a bad person - then I guess I am a bad person. If using curse words now and again to tell a story or a joke makes me someone who is not classy then so be it. No one knows that I am the first person to volunteer for things - especially when it comes to helping the less fortunate. No one knows that if I have $5.00 in my pocket, I give $4.99 of it away. I don't need to sit here and list my credentials on why I am a decent human being. I just am. I am good, I am kind, and I love to laugh. And yet the name calling and joke killing continues.
Here's the thing though. Out of almost 16,000 people, I can count about 20 people that have done this - but it's those 20 that hurt the most. Squeaky wheels that get the grease? These 20 people in all of our lives are why we say "mean people suck" or "I would be a people person, but I hate people.." and so many other one liners about hating being around people. So all of this makes me ponder one question...
Why let the 1% ruin it for the 99% that are good? WE are the 99% - and we are funny, sarcastic, smart, classy, wonderful people that CAN take a joke, that CAN laugh at ourselves, that CAN appreciate laughing to get through the day.
I believe this you know. I do believe that the majority - and I mean strong majority of people are good - but when the bad come out and try to ruin it - we remember them because they inflict so much pain and damage with their words disguised as 'opinions' and 'statements' and they have rights too and blah blah blah that they actually suck the energy right out of a funny post. Wait a minute. Last I checked - this was MY humor page and MY outlet and so I consider it like MY house. So when people come to MY house and disrespect me or deconstruct a joke and get everyone all pissed off by their buzzkilling nature, I get prickly. I hate banning people. I hate deleting comments. And OMG do I hate babysitting adults. Why can't people just be cool. Don't like a joke? Then move along - ignore it - or better yet - unlike the page or don't read it! Why would you take time out of your precious life to type a statement on why a joke is NOT funny. Why do people do that? Because some people thrive on being miserable. And misery loves company.
One thing I have learned is that I have stopped trying to make people happy. My definition of happy and someone else's definition of happy are clearly two very different things. Some people are only happy being miserable. No thank you.
I try to be positive and upbeat. Respectful and genuine. Thoughtful and kind. The 1% don't care about those things. They will be themselves no matter how something is presented - they are assholes. That is that. They will find a reason NOT to laugh every time. Whether it's pretending something is offensive or saying it doesn't make sense or debating on why something is not funny - they will find a reason to kill the joke. I will continue to ban these people on my page. I would not put up with someone like that in real life - why would I put up with that in cyber space?
It's sad but so are they. I would feel sorry for them - but they don't want that. They want me to join them and I will not do that. I will continue to be me - I will continue on my quest to make the world a funnier, happier place, and I will continue to strongly believe that we, the funny, the brave, the kind, the happy, are truly the 99%. It is for these people that I will keep doing what I'm doing. I appreciate you, I thank you for your support - and if you've read this far, thank you for letting me vent.
Peace and Love - Laughter too..